Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Smackdown complete.

My meeting with the outgoing crazy FRG leader happened today. With the full weight of the battalion's family readiness leadership behind me, no less.

It went about as well as could be expected. I was in total corporate mindfuck mode -- you know, I buttered her up about what a great job she did, asked her how I could make the transition smoother for her, let her tell me how she wanted information to flow up and down the structure, etc. And then when she got all comfortable, BAM!, I explained that (a) a POC needs to be reachable and (b) she needed to feed information about meetings and issues up the FRG chain. Non-negotiable. Period. The end.

She hemmed and hawed a bit, said she worked, she was busy, her husband didn't give her messages, she handled the issues herself and didn't need to tell us, she didn't reply to emails unless she was specifically asked to. Yadda, yadda, yadda.

And, of course, she threw a helluva lot of blame on her old co-leader. It was a classy touch that made her look incredibly foolish in front of the leadership.

But ultimately, it looks like even if she doesn't like it, she at least understands that things are going to change around here. Of course, exactly how remains to be seen.

This should get interesting.


Linda said...

This is exactly why I choose to be the adviser and not the leader. As the commander's wife, I refuse to be branded as the "crazy FRG leader"...I believe fully that the person in charge must be able to completely devote the time necessary to keep the FRG in a good, STRONG standing position...and I am not the person to do that (heck, I can barely keep myself and family straightened out, lol).

This crazy FRG leader of yours hemmed and hawed and made excuses, and that in itself says volumes about her interest and desire. She only wanted the title so she could "do it all herself".

I'm GLAD you took her to task. If only there was an FRG resume that one needed to fill out. Imagine:

Previous FRG positions held? May we contact this FRG for references?

How many people would be able to say YES and not be worried about what others would say?

Can't wait to hear and see the changes!!!

Marine Wife said...

Good for you!

Kimba said...

Our FRG is awful. I stopped going to meetings.

I would like to think that every command isn't saddled with such an ineffective FRG as mine (this was my first experience). I will read back through your blog and see if I can answer this for myself, but in general, are they helpful?

Non-Essential Equipment said...

They can be, Kimba. But like any volunteer organization, they are only as good as the people that make them up.

As my friend, J., long time FRG leader, says, one way to make the FRG you want is to get on in there and make it what you want.

At least, that's what I keep telling myself.